How to love your job

Some people hate the snow, can you imagine?

Some people hate the snow, can you imagine?

You know there’s something in your life that you’ve grown to despise, something that you can’t really do anything about.  Maybe it’s the snow. Maybe it’s this long gray cold season (guilty!). Maybe it’s your job.  Or maybe it’s your house.  Or perhaps it’s something else.

Andrew Miller, in one of my favorite blogs,, tells about his own experience going from hating his job to loving it, and he shares with you how you can do the same.  He uses advice from the great positive-thinker Zig Ziglar.

No matter what you’re struggling with today, read this!  Changing your mindset will make you happier, and Andrew explains just how you can do that:  here goes!

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I want to tell you a story about how I learned to love my job.

First I need to tell you why I hated my job: health insurance. Simply put, I wouldn’t need to work my day job if we could buy health insurance, but because Sonia (my wife) had cancer a few years back, we can’t get insured. My job is the only feasible source for health insurance, so I’m tied to it for now.

And boy, did I resent the heck out of that.

I have a good work situation: I work in a coffee shop where the employees are more of a family than co-workers. It’s a great atmosphere, and I get to indulge one of my favorite hobbies: coffee. I get to talk about, drink, and sell coffee all day long. I get contact with people who adore coffee, and love talking about it. There’s really not many “real jobs” better suited for me, but because I was forced to work there, I had grown to resent every minute of it.

I hated my job. I dreaded going, and the hours spent there seemed to stretch out with no end. It was terrible.

Then Zig Zigler gave me a swift kick in the butt.

I somehow stumbled on a video where he described a brief exercise for people who hate their work.

First step: Write down everything that you sorta like about your job.

Even if you have a terrible job, there are a few things that you like about it: you get paid, for instance. Write that down.

Here’s my list:

  1. I like my job because they pay me money.
  2. I like my job because I get health insurance.
  3. I like my job because I get good health insurance, which covers a lot of expenses.
  4. I like my job because I work with cool people.
  5. I like my job because I get free coffee
  6. I like my job because I get to meet cool people.
  7. I like my job because I get to try new products before they come out.
  8. I like my job because I get to serve people.

Your list will look different than mine, but you should at least have a small list. Ponder this for a while. Really look for the things (even small things) that you like about your job.

Done? Ok, let’s move on.

Second step: When you’re all alone, perhaps late at night when everyone else has gone to bed, go to a mirror and stare directly into your eyes in the reflection.

As Zig said in the video, eyes are the windows to your soul. Try to stop examining your face, your imperfections, your hair, your muscles, whatever you normally do when you look in the mirror, and stare directly into your eyes (actually, pick an eye, don’t dart back-and-forth). Be quiet for a moment. Relax. Then take your list of “likes” and start telling them to yourself.

…only substitute “like” for “love”.

This was a soul-rending experience for me. I was scared to do this, because it was just too tough. It was too darn difficult to say that I loved my job. I had nursed the hatred for so long that it was like making up with someone who had hurt me. I knew I had to change, though, so I did it.

I immediately felt some relief. Things were changing.

After I had done this exercise for a few days, I started to believe it. Work seemed less unbearable, and more of an opportunity to serve, learn, and connect. Sometimes on bad days I had to stare at my reflection in the break room microwave and go through this list.

I’m still working on it, and it keeps getting better. Thankfulness is powerful, the most healthy human emotion, and it can be exercised in any situation. Utilize it to manage your gut and be the best you can be.

That dose of thankfulness awakened me to the truth: I had fallen for the lie that my circumstances are responsible for my happiness. I thought that if I could quit my job, if i could buy health insurance, if I could have more money, it would fix my life. The truth is,  have to fix my life before change can happen. If you believe that a different job, a different boss, a different circumstance would make all of your life better, I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t work that way. Give your new boss a few months, and you’ll hate him too. I am going to quit my job eventually, but I’m going to be thankful for it, for my co-workers, for everything on that list above, and I’m going to have a better, more purposeful life for it.

If you hate your job, start practicing intentional thankfulness. It might completely change how you view your job. It might change how your co-workers treat you, because (I promise) it will completely change you.

Hope everything’s going well for you, keep living on purpose.



12 thoughts on “How to love your job

    1. dramamamafive Post author

      And Susan, it is possible to push a bad mood away and force yourself to be happy if you work at it! Such a blessing that we can change our attitude and thus change the outcome of each day, if we will it!

    1. dramamamafive Post author

      Alana, you are my new BFF. Thanks for sharing my post on LinkedIn. I’ve never actually done that, so it’s a first for my blog! Thanks so much!

  1. Chef William

    Nice post, however I already love my job because I’m working with and writing about food. To be a successful chef, working with food must be your passion. When you are working in a kitchen, the hours are long, the cooking area is hot, tempers can be short, you are always under pressure, but if it is your passion then the rewards are many. I am married to a wonderful women that understands me better than I understand myself. Perhaps some of it is because I have many of Zig Ziglar’s tapes as well as Tony Robins, Dr. Wayne Dyer and Dr. Deepak Chopra and one or two by Louise L Hay. I recommend them to anyone that wants to enjoy life more.

  2. dramamamafive Post author

    I actually thought about you when I posted it, because I was thinking that the man who loves his job from the get-go is truly blessed. But so many of us find ourselves in jobs (or situations) that we don’t actually love, and it’s important to remember that our positive attitude can change that. It sounds as if you’ve worked hard to keep your attitude a positive one–good for you! It shows in your blog posts!

  3. Anita-Clare Field

    What a fabulous blog, I think everyone who is hacked off with their job should read this. I work for myself which means I am motivated and hugely passionate about what I do. I think if you don’t love what you do there is no point in getting out of bed in the morning !

    1. dramamamafive Post author

      Well, then you are blessed indeed, if you love your work! My son (who wrote the post above) has to work at the coffeeshop right now because of his wife’s health insurance situation, so it is a helpful thing that he is able to be happy about it, even though it’s not his choice. Thanks so much for your comment!

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